Community activity is part of ‘civic responsibility’. It’s about doing things because we want to give back to our communities or help others. Show
Your child can learn about civic responsibility and be active in your community by:
Your child might be interested in online civic or community activities – for example, an online campaign to save local parkland. Online community involvement can motivate teenagers to get involved in face-to-face community activities. Benefits of being involved in community activities and volunteeringIt doesn’t matter what teenagers do for their communities. Any involvement is good! When teenagers get involved in community activities and volunteering, they get many personal rewards and feelings of achievement. Role models Identity and connection
Skills Volunteer work and community activities are also great opportunities to show initiative and develop workplace skills. For example, the sausage sizzle could give your child experience in speaking to customers and handling cash. Volunteering for Meals on Wheels might help your child prepare for part-time work as a waiter. And helping out at an animal shelter is a good way to learn how to groom or care for animals. Being able to manage free time while balancing leisure, work and study is an important life skill. Being part of community activities could motivate your child to get more organised and start to manage their own time. Self-confidence, mental health and wellbeing It’s also a great foundation for mental health and wellbeing. Young people often feel good about being involved in something where others expect them to turn up, where they feel helpful and valued, and where they’re supported to achieve something as part of a group. These positive feelings can help protect young people from sadness and depression. Being involved in positive community activity can also reduce the likelihood of substance abuse, mental illness and criminal activity.
Encouraging involvement in community activities and volunteeringStart early Your child might get involved naturally in some of the things you do – helping out at preschool or school working bees, coaching a junior sport team, helping out at community events, spending weekends at local festivals, or swapping favours with other local families. Your child is also more likely to get involved if their friends are. So you could suggest that your child takes part in an activity with a friend who’s already involved. Take your child’s personality into account Model civic responsibility Help your child get started Your child might need your help to make the first contact with a group. If you make some initial calls for your child, you might be able to increase their chances of success. Some organisations have a minimum age for volunteers, so it’s worth finding this out early on. Build on what your child is already doing For example, if your child is in the debating team at school, they might enjoy a junior toastmasters group or an opportunity to speak up on a youth issue. If your child enjoys team sports, they could help out with some junior coaching. If your child has done some fundraising at school, they might like to put this experience into practice raising funds for a worthy cause. You could also encourage your child to think about their family, friends and neighbours to see whether there’s someone they could help – a new parent or an elderly neighbour, for example. Community activity and volunteering for young people with additional needs is just as beneficial as it is for typically developing teenagers. It can be a great way for them to build confidence and connections as well as workplace skills. Depending on your child’s strengths, interests and needs, you could look for opportunities in disability-oriented or mainstream organisations. Child safety in community and volunteer organisationsIt’s essential that your child is safe when doing community activities or working for volunteer organisations. For example, depending on your child’s age, you might decide to meet any adults your child is going to work with, or ensure the adult volunteers or workers have a working with children (WWC) check. You could also agree on ground rules with your child about where they’re allowed to do community work. For example, you might agree that a public facility or space is OK, but a private home isn’t. Community activities and volunteer organisationsYou could also check out state-based volunteering websites: Your child might find out about community activities and volunteering opportunities on social media. You could also find out about local opportunities from your local council or neighbourhood centre.
Privacy This is because your child is exploring new ideas, emotions and social interests. Your child is also working out what kind of person they are or want to be. It’s natural for your child to keep ideas and information to themselves as they do this. Giving your child time and privacy to think and explore is an important part of supporting their growing independence. That’s because part of growing up is learning to handle new ideas, emotions and interests with independence and responsibility. Monitoring This means that your child needs you to stay in touch with them, so you can guide and support them. This is called monitoring. But because teenagers also need privacy and independence, you need to monitor your child differently from when they were younger. For example, your child might gradually start getting around independently and checking in with you at agreed times. Trust Trust goes both ways. Your child needs to trust that you respect their right to have privacy and a say in decisions about their life. When you and your child have mutual trust, you’ll have better communication. Your child will also be more likely to come to you when they need help. Wanting more privacy and time alone doesn’t mean teenagers have something to hide. But if teenagers spend many hours in their rooms, don’t ever want to talk or seem very withdrawn, it could be a warning sign of depression, anxiety, smoking, alcohol or other drug use, or other problem activities. It could also be that your child is spending too much time alone on the computer or internet. Respecting privacy for pre-teens and teenagersHow much privacy is appropriate? If you’re not sure, it can help to ask yourself what you really need to know. For example, there are some things you need to know, like where your child is going to be on Saturday night, how they’re getting there and back, and whether there’ll be alcohol or adult supervision. But there are other things that can be private between your child and their friends – for example, what they talked about at a party, or who they danced with. Practical ways to respect your child’s privacy include:
It can also help to discuss privacy with your child, set some ground rules and work out some boundaries. These can be changed as your child gets older. You might also want to talk about situations where you’d need to cross the agreed boundaries. For example, this could be when you’re really worried that something isn’t right with your child. To send the message that you respect your child’s privacy, you could avoid things like:
Monitoring pre-teens and teenagers successfullyThe best monitoring is based on everyday rules and routines, plus staying connected with your child. This low-key approach to monitoring builds trust, strengthens your relationship, and makes it more likely that your child will share what they’re up to. Family rules and routines
Staying connected with your child
Too little monitoring can leave teenagers without the support they need to make safe decisions about behaviour and relationships. But too much monitoring can send the message you don’t trust your child. When you monitor your child in a trusting environment, you’re giving your child what they need to learn how to make good decisions and behave responsibly. Handling breaches of trustYour child might break your trust or misuse their privacy. For a one-off breach, you could withdraw a privilege. For example, you could take away some TV or computer time, or not drive your child to an activity. You might also need to monitor your child more closely for a period while you rebuild trust. For major breaches of trust, or breaches that keep happening, you and your child will need to rebuild trust over time. You might need to use strategies like:
You can try to negotiate practical ways your child can earn back your trust – for example, by showing you that they can be responsible for certain tasks over a period of time. Letting your child know that you still love them even though you’re disappointed in their behaviour will help your child bounce back and learn from their mistakes. Remember that trust goes both ways. If you breach your child’s trust or privacy, it’s important to take responsibility for this and say sorry. By doing this, you set a good example for your child. Your child will also respect you more if you can admit that you’ve overstepped the boundary. |